To My Girlies…

Lately, I have found myself thinking a lot about my girls – and what they will be like when they get a little older. Maybe it’s due to some of the conversations we have – they just seem older lately (tear). I have so much I want to instill in them – areas I know I fail in and other areas I feel I have a grasp on. Either way, please know that this comes from the humblest place in my heart. Know that it comes from a momma who is eager to guide these little women God has given me.

Little girls, as you grow…

Be confident, yet humble. This can be tricky. Just remember that arrogance is a trait that looks good on no one. As you figure out your strengths and abilities, find ways to use them. Don’t hold back but wear success gracefully. However, be okay with not being the best at everything, and encourage those who are. Confidence, security, and strength is shown so beautifully when you are genuinely happy for those who do well. Learn from them – and let them make you better! Watch your father. God has graced him with this trait. He is confident but one of the most humble men I know. I love this about him.

Do your absolute best to love your body. As I look at your tiny figures now, it’s hard to imagine you finding displeasure with them, but I know someday you will pick apart every square inch of yourself. Someday, you will stand in awe of the power of your “womanhood.” Whether it is bringing forth babies, being the sole provider of nourishment for those babies, or its ability to be the constant catch of your hubby’s eye, a woman’s body is powerful, and God made it so. You’ll understand this one in time but… don’t waste away hours coveting someone else’s legs or triceps or any other ridiculous body part we women obsess over. Just. don’t. do. it. With all of this said… take care of your body. Fuel it with healthy foods you love and spoil it from time to time with sweets you can’t resist. Treat it to a hard workout – something that excites and challenges you! Bathe it in the relaxation you so deserve, too.

Find your style. Girls with the best style might not always be “on trend” but are consistent in their choices and wear their clothes well. Fit is key. No matter how in style something is, if it doesn’t fit well, put it back. If style and fashion aren’t your thing, embrace it! Learn to laugh at your quirks and be comfortable in who you are. One last tip I have totally taken advantage of… if your hair or makeup looks good, no one pays attention to your outfit. 😉

Friends…. One of God’s absolute greatest gifts in life. I mean it. You can never have too many friends, and don’t believe anyone who tells you different. Trust your gut in these relationships. Seek friends who love you and enjoy you just the way you are. Don’t go trying to please someone just to be her friend. It is not worth it – those relationship will most definitely suck the life out of you. Be genuine. Reach out to those whom others overlook. Some of my most favorite people/friends have taken me totally by surprise. BE RELIABLE, maybe one of the most important trait of a friend. Be there, be there, be there. Make it your goal to have a reputation for being a reliable friend. Lastly, show grace. Life is crazy and busy and friends get boyfriends or make new friends, but so will you. So be gracious.

Do you know how blessed you two are? You see, you have each other – a built-in best friend. Even if it doesn’t come naturally, work at your friendship. Cherish it and nourish it as if you couldn’t function without it. It is absolutely the most beautiful friendship you will experience. Hold each other up – never speak ill of each other to others. Your sister is absolutely worth losing a friend over. Absolutely.

Work hard. Put your head down, dig in deep, and always give it your all. I get chills when I hear stories of people who go above and beyond. It’s inspirational and motivating! Be that for other people. Don’t complain. See the good in a terrible situation and be that upbeat, positive influence in the room. People will never tire of this attitude.

When it comes to boys, use your head – your heart can beat a thousand times a minute for someone your brain knows is all wrong for you. It’s okay to let your heart take over once you’ve found “the one.” Here is the deal – some girls marry at 18, others wait until their 40s. There is no perfect way to do it. Just don’t sweat it. I heard this quote by Mayo Angelo and love it. “A woman’s heart should be so hidden in God that a man has to seek Him just to find her.” Which leads me to my closing….

Chase wildly after Christ. Seek Him, love Him, and enjoy Him. Don’t wait to know Him until you are seasoned with bad choices and regrets. Hold fast to His word and let Him guide your path.

I love you dearly.