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Moms after Dark

Sometimes after I get the last of my three kids in bed, not necessarily sleeping, but IN bed, my husband and I look at each other with a knowing look—a look of excitement, full of possibility. It’s time for…

Wait.

What should we do with this magical time that we are, after much hard work, kid-free but paying for neither a babysitter nor daycare costs?

We don’t dwell too long on this question. We promptly fire up the blender full of margarita mix and ice.

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I’ll admit, the sound of the blender is a bit harsh in a house newly quiet with bedtime. But we all know they aren’t sleeping yet. My son yells from his downstairs bedroom at us because he is closest to our blender noise and therefore most annoyed by it all.

“MOOOOOMMM?! I hate that noise!!!!! Turn it off, Mom! I’m trying to sleeeep!” (He is most definitely not trying to sleep.)

Me hollering back over the blender’s sweet sweet song:

“We don’t say ‘hate,’ buddy. I love you. Go to sleep!”

And then I hand my hubs a glass full of margarita with a tired smile and we slump down on the couch. For this moment is ours.

When the rush of the day quiets for you, what do you do? What do you choose first? Sure, there’s time for some one-on-one boom chicka wow wow… but realistically, that’s not my very first thought. There’s a moms-after-dark time given to us that is full of possibility. What do you do with it? Do you pay bills, vacuum, dust, fold laundry, do dishes, mop floors, or shower for the first time in a few days? Do you slump into a pile of nothingness and fall into a deep and much needed sleep?

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Do you jump back into your latest hobby? Do you knit hats like me? Do you read a book? Do you have time to read?! Do you shop online? Do you get on The Book (a.k.a. Facebook) and stalk people? Do you Pinterest and dream of DIY beauty?

Whatever it is mamas, that time is yours. Share it, rock it by yourself, get some much needed zzz’s, whatever your preference may be. After a hard days rockin’, you deserve an hour or two of doing what you want.

If you’re the sharing type, tell me: the kids are in bed… what do you do?

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6 Responses to Moms after Dark

  1. Brandie March 2, 2015 at 10:15 pm #

    I think it’s really sad that so many women drink nearly every day. Not only is it bad for you, but it sets a horrible example for your kids. On top of that, it does not help you get a better night’s rest.

  2. Mel March 3, 2015 at 4:40 pm #

    Brandie- I totally agree it can be sad if done in excess. My husband says that the truth is that I get two sips in, knit some of my baby hats and fall asleep next to him within roughly 15 minutes. Haha! No worries on over drinking here. It was also a very small part of the point of the post. There are lots of other ways to relax after the kids are in bed. Take care and have a great day Brandie!

  3. Alex March 10, 2015 at 3:25 am #

    read, soak in a hot bath, enjoy a glass of wine!

  4. sara March 10, 2015 at 6:15 am #

    I get so excited of the possibilities of doing so many non chore activities that I put my hands into everything and never actually enjoy one. For example: I’ll start a DIY project and start watching TV at the same time and then become lazy.. eventually falling asleep Lol I don’t think we are used to the freedom

  5. sara March 10, 2015 at 6:16 am #

    I get so excited of the possibilities of doing so many non chore activities that I put my hands into everything and never actually enjoy one. For example: I’ll start a DIY project and start watching TV at the same time and then become lazy.. eventually falling asleep Lol I don’t think we are used to the freedom

  6. AMRIJA March 10, 2015 at 4:45 pm #

    Brandie …

    Judge much?? A glass of wine or a drink to unwind is totally fine and yes it does help me sleep better. Maybe you should try it so you can relax a bit. CHEERS!!

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