You may have seen the articles floating around the Interweb about embracing the mess, especially when we are taking on the task of raising little humans. You may have also seen the very honest posts from brave moms posting a picture of the epic pile of laundry or dishes in their homes.
Now, let me duck behind a shield as I say, I can’t really relate to that.
Since having kids, my desire for a clean and organized home amped up a notch. At the first sight of clutter or disorganization, I felt myself getting all twitchy and panicky feeling inside.
I am known to say, “Everything has a home or we need to find it one!” Clutter on the kitchen countertops sends my little heartbeat into overdrive.
Since having kids, I’ve found ways to keep the clutter down, the kids’ toys managed, and I am pretty confident to say that, usually, we are moving steady ahead like a steam engine down the tracks. My kids know the routines and the expectations, they know where their belongings go, and everyone pitches in to help out.
Everything has a place and there is a sense of order and routine.
Before anyone wonders how in the world one would have fun in this kind of home, don’t! We make plenty of messes and good memories while we are at it. I am also the kind of mom who is not afraid of glitter, paint, play doh, or spills. My kids just know when we are done we all clean up together.
There may be a day or two where there are dishes in the sink, a basket full of laundry sitting in our bedroom, waiting to be put away, or toys strewn from the living room, through the dining room and back. I also have drawers and closets that aren’t so organized. So, please don’t get the impression that my home is perfectly picked up ALL THE TIME. But, I would like to say our home is ready for anyone to enter without me frantically running around, shoving laundry in the closet, trying to wash dishes, or excusing the mess.
We still have fun, make messes, and I don’t judge any other mom who manages her home differently.
As a mom who works outside the home, organization and having a system is imperative for my own mental health. When my home is messy, I feel discombobulated as well. I find that when I have a clean house, I am happier, more relaxed, and able to have fun with my kids. I’ve learned the balance of leaving the dishes after dinner to play a game with the kids and then get them ready for bed. Then I do the dishes when they are in bed.
So, when I see articles or quotes about how messy homes equals love and a mom who plays instead of cleans all the time, I can’t help but cringe a little and tentatively and slowly raise my hand asking if there is anyone who is like me? We are big on love and big on fun, just with a vacuum and mop close by!