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How I Use Facebook: Lessons Learned

In the seven years that I have been on Facebook, I have discovered several things about myself, my friends, and the world I live in. Here is a sampling of the lessons I have learned:

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THINGS AREN’T ALWAYS WHAT THEY SEEM: 

Most people I know only post their good stuff. The last post I wrote was about this, and how I think this is totally okay, and even my preference. The lesson I have taken away from this is that I needn’t be too concerned about measuring up to anyone on Facebook. It’s just not realistic, and it’s just not worth my time or energy to try. Facebook is what it is: a highlights reel, not the whole game. I realize I’m missing a bunch of the facts, and that’s okay.

ARGUMENTS ARE BETTER LEFT OFF-LINE:

Has anyone ever been convinced to switch their political and/or religious views based on something online? I am not saying you shouldn’t post things you find inspiring or uplifting on these two topics, but what I don’t understand is when people post things putting down someone else’s views or beliefs. I’ve only seen hateful comments divide, not change anyone else’s opinions.

IT’S EASY TO SLIP INTO A TIME WARP:

Time management is always a bit of a struggle for me. I have read quite a few articles about the science behind why this is more difficult for some and not others. It seems that the part of my brain that gages about how long a task will take is a bit “off.” And interestingly enough, multitaskers like me tend to have this issue. It’s something I am always aware of and constantly working on so that my kids will see me modeling appropriate use of my time and a healthy balance of technology in my life.

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IT’S NICE TO BELONG IN A GROUP:

I don’t know about you, but Facebook Groups is a feature I use A LOT. I have a couple single moms groups, a church group, high school friends, blog friends… you get the picture. It becomes really easy to communicate among these different groups when I use Facebook’s Group feature. I love how it streamlines conversations and how it makes life just a little bit easier.

FRIENDSHIP LOOKS DIFFERENT NOW:

Oh, my gosh, letters. Actual send-in-the-mail letters. Do you remember those? Not so long ago, I was going through boxes for a move and found a whole big box of these precious handwritten notes written on honest-to-goodness paper and stationary (what-what?). Do my kids even know that the word “stationary” can mean a type of paper product? Back in the day, this is how we used to keep in touch with our long-distance friends. But these days, we just don’t have the time to communicate via “snail mail.” (I still try to, because I love it, but sadly not near as much as I’d like.) Also, those long-lost friends from days past are so accessible I almost feel like I know them, even when I haven’t actually seen them in ages. I kinda like that. Don’t get me wrong, I still think actually getting together with your friends is a must, but admit it, sometimes that is a lot easier said than done.

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A LOT OF MY FRIENDS ARE SELLING SOMETHING:

For real! But in reality, it’s really not all that bad, is it? I mean, I can’t think of people who I’d want to support more than my friends. If you can afford it, and want it, why not buy from them? Most people I know who have their own direct sales businesses do so because they want to contribute to their home income while staying home with their kids. That’s something I respect very much and will do what I can to support (within my financial abilities, that is!).

IT’S A SMALL WORLD AFTER ALL:

I knew this before Facebook, but now the interesting connections are more and more frequent and super fun to figure out. It’s a good thing when worlds collide — at least for me it is. I guess I can’t say that it is for everyone. But it makes me realize that there is still a great big world I haven’t experienced, and when I can connect with friends and family near and far with a few little taps on my phone or clicks on my computer, anything seems possible. Well, almost anything.

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I’ve learned these and other valuable lessons while navigating through this exciting, scary, and vast world of technology and information now available at our fingertips. I love it, but what is very clear to me is that I love the actual friendships I have more than the Facebook friendships I have. Nothing can replace girls’ nights or getting together with family and friends, but Facebook does make managing all of it and keeping up a whole lot easier. And for that, I am grateful.

What lessons have you learned as a result of Facebook?

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