Do you have a child that fights you on sleep? Baby won’t nap? Toddler waking frequently at night? Read all the books but nothing seems to “fit” your child, and your family? It might be time to consider hiring a private consultant to help you troubleshoot and figure out how to get your child (and you!) better rested.
A private consultant.
To help your child sleep.
Doesn’t that sound just heavenly? I didn’t even know such a “thing” existed until I recently had the opportunity to work with Randi Forschler of Tiny Onezzz Consulting, LLC. Honestly, I was a bit skeptical at first. This is my fourth baby. I’ve read all the books. I wondered what magic tricks she’d have up her sleeve that I hadn’t already tried. But friends, I’m here to tell you that I’m so glad we called her. She was SO helpful!
Here’s where we started:
My four-month-old son slept pretty great at night, but only if swaddled suuuuuper tightly, nursed into a deep deep slumber (which sometimes took up to two hours,) and strapped into his bouncy seat. When he woke up to eat around 4 or 5 a.m., I had to transfer him to his swing to sleep the rest of the night. Naps were… how should we put this… nearly non-existent. He would only sleep while nursing; occasionally (if I was lucky!), I could ever-so-carefully transfer his little swaddled body into the swing for another 30 minutes of sleep out of my arms. But if I wanted him to nap any more than 20 to 30 minutes, I had to sit in his room, nursing and rocking, nursing and rocking, while my other children ran around like wild things and homeschooled themselves. Needless to say, something needed to change!
So I called Randi.
During our first phone consult (important to note: she offers FREE 15-minute phone consultations!), she assured me that she definitely had some strategies that could help us. I told her I wasn’t a fan of “crying it out,” and she promised she had a gentler approach to helping my son learn to sleep unassisted. The next week she came to our house for an in-person consultation. One thing I loved was how involved she got my husband in the process. Sure, I’ve slugged him in the shoulder at 3 a.m. and told him I needed his help with the baby, but there’s something to be said about someone else sitting in your living room, looking your husband in the eyes, and giving him specific directions on what he can and should do with the baby, particularly in the middle of the night. Since I exclusively breastfeed, he’s always felt a bit powerless to help me out, so it was huge for him to be given specific strategies to use.
After we started trying out some of Randi’s techniques, she called to check in on how things were going, multiple times. After that, she offered unlimited email support for two weeks, and I definitely took advantage of this! Though she promised to respond within one business day, she typically got back to me within a few hours, which was amazing.
Like I said, I’ve read a bunch of books on infant sleep, but when things didn’t “work” as the author promised, I always wished I could call them up and ask follow-up questions. Randi answered these questions for me. It was also huge for my husband and I to have some outside accountability, someone to call us the following morning to ask if we really followed through on our plan, and if we were being consistent. If there’s one thing that really helps kids in learning to sleep well, consistency is key! I also found Randi to be very gracious, tweaking the plan when my baby was sick, ensuring breastfeeding was still going well, and working within our family dynamics and parenting style.
After just two weeks of putting Randi’s sleep plan into action, my son now falls asleep unassisted (and unswaddled!) for three naps a day! Bedtime is still a work in progress, but it’s SO much better than it was. And most nights of the week, he sleeps 8- to 10-hour stretches before waking up for a quick feed, then goes right back to sleep on his own until morning. Life-changing! My older kids are happy to have me back during the day, and baby is so much better rested.
If you’re having issues getting your kids the sleep they need, both for their health and for your sanity, give Randi at Tiny Onezzz a call!
Disclaimer: I received the above described consulting services from Tiny Onezzz in exchange for writing this post. I was not paid to share my opinions but received significant value in consulting services.